Jennifer M. Rodriguez - Family and Relationship Coach
Positively Jen


Easy Life, Abused Wife

What were you doing ten years ago? Where were you living? Did you have kids yet? Where were you working? Think about how much you have grown over the past ten years. Have you grown a lot? Not so much? Maybe things are a little tougher for you now than they were then?
Ten years ago on March 31, 2005 my ex-husband was arrested for domestic abuse and false imprisonment. Technically, I think his arrest was just after midnight on April 1; but you get the idea.

Sometimes all you need is a change

This summer my family and I made the decision to relocate.  We left the beautiful weather of Sacramento and headed for the blistering Texas heat of San Antonio, where the salsa is so hot it knocks your boots off!  I had been feeling more and more trapped living in Sacramento despite having a non-profit that I loved, loads of wonderful friends, the supportive in-laws, and many successes.  The thing weighing me down--I could not escape the oppression of my ex-husband or the oppression of the family courts who were more and more the ones in control of my life, or so it seemed.

Jar of Hearts

Hello Dear Readers!

As a survivor of domestic violence, I really appreciate this song.  Anyone can become involved in an unhealthy relationship, but that doesn't mean that person is stuck there. Christina Perri's "Jar of Hearts" demonstrates how a person can extract himself or herself from a bad relationship and reinforce those personal boundaries to keep that negativity from creeping back.  

This song and video may appear to be negative at first glance; but I choose to see it as a positive song because it shows the beginning of growth.

Free Your Mind (in honor of MLK Day!)

Hello Dear Readers!

I picked "Free Your Mind" by En Vogue because it is a song with a strong message about prejudices and racism...with a positive and empowering spirit instead of an angry spirit.  I also love songs by strong women!  MLK Jr would be proud of these women!

My favorite lines:
"Before you can read me you gotta learn how to see me" because it is important to try to see people for their actions and ideas instead of their outward appearance...and that is SO hard to do!

I Will Survive

Hello Dear Readers!

This was one of my go to songs when I was escaping my abusive marriage.  Gloria Gaynor has a beautiful and strong voice which just adds to the power of the message.  "I Will Survive" is a timeless classic.  Even when I thought I might not survive, listening to this song helped provide that little nudge I needed to move on to the next goal. 

My favorite lines:
"As long as I know how to love I know I'll stay alive" because love is a powerful force, and sometimes that is all we need to keep hanging on when the going gets tough.