Jennifer M. Rodriguez - Family and Relationship Coach
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What would you do if your child care provider treated your children poorly?

Alexandra at age 5When my daughter Alexandra was about 7 she got in trouble while I was at work for not following directions.  Her caregiver locked her out of the house on the front porch and showed her pictures of missing children and told her, “This is what’s going to happen to you if you can’t behave in my house.” She begged to go home and the caregiver said, “OK, start walking!”  At the time I lived about 20 minutes away by car.  When the caregiver walked into another room Francesca (who was 5 at the time) unlocked the door and let Alexandra back in.

Sometimes all you need is a change

This summer my family and I made the decision to relocate.  We left the beautiful weather of Sacramento and headed for the blistering Texas heat of San Antonio, where the salsa is so hot it knocks your boots off!  I had been feeling more and more trapped living in Sacramento despite having a non-profit that I loved, loads of wonderful friends, the supportive in-laws, and many successes.  The thing weighing me down--I could not escape the oppression of my ex-husband or the oppression of the family courts who were more and more the ones in control of my life, or so it seemed.

Superman (It's Not Easy)

Hello Dear Readers,
Today I want to share Five For Fighting's song "Superman (It's Not Easy)" because they are performing at a benefit concert tonight atBaylor University'sFerrell Center in Waco, TX.  The concert is free, and it will benefit the residents of West, Texas as they deal with the aftermath of an explosion at a fertilizer plant from earlier in the week. 
Baylor University is just a few miles south of West, and several alumni, faculty, and students live in West.

Bring on the Rain

Hello Dear Readers!

Sometimes I have the opportunity to participate in a candlelight vigil to honor the children and families who are going through difficult times.  This is the song I sing after lighting the candles, and it becomes a very powerful message.  Jo Dee Messina sings this with Tim McGraw, and it is the perfect song to listen to after a bad day when you need get back on the proverbial horse. 

My favorite lines:
"A single battle lost, but not the war" because we can’t always have things our way 100% of the time.

Jar of Hearts

Hello Dear Readers!

As a survivor of domestic violence, I really appreciate this song.  Anyone can become involved in an unhealthy relationship, but that doesn't mean that person is stuck there. Christina Perri's "Jar of Hearts" demonstrates how a person can extract himself or herself from a bad relationship and reinforce those personal boundaries to keep that negativity from creeping back.  

This song and video may appear to be negative at first glance; but I choose to see it as a positive song because it shows the beginning of growth.

Standing Outside the Fire

Hello Readers!

This week in Alex's band class they had to perform solos in front of the rest of the class.  Alex is an amazing baritone player, but she is not a fan of playing in front of non-family members. She did really well in class (of course!) and her band teacher asked her to perform at Sacramento State University for a solo competition.  Alex was not sure she wanted to do this--she was letting her stage fright get the best of her.  I remembered my own 7th grade experience singing a solo in choir, and then having to go compete at the solo and ensemble competition, as well.

Part of Me

Hello Readers!

Today is Franny's 10th birthday, so I am highlighting one of her favorite songs "Part of Me" by Katy Perry. Franny says "I like this song because in the video it shows that girls can be just as strong as boys."

My favorite lines:
"Throw your sticks and your stones, throw your bombs and your blows; but you’re not gonna break my soul" because our inner spirit cannot be dimmed by the mean actions of another person unless we allow that to happen. 

"Now look at me I’m sparkling, a firework, a dancing flame" because shedding the excess baggage or the negative influences in our lives can free us to be the person we were meant to be--in all our glory!

I Will Survive

Hello Dear Readers!

This was one of my go to songs when I was escaping my abusive marriage.  Gloria Gaynor has a beautiful and strong voice which just adds to the power of the message.  "I Will Survive" is a timeless classic.  Even when I thought I might not survive, listening to this song helped provide that little nudge I needed to move on to the next goal. 

My favorite lines:
"As long as I know how to love I know I'll stay alive" because love is a powerful force, and sometimes that is all we need to keep hanging on when the going gets tough.