As many of you already know, my daughters and I are survivors of a near lethal domestic abuse situation. This experience has influenced my belief system and thoughts about what it means to be a woman in this world and in my own home.
There is a widely held belief out there that feminist ideals belong to the leftist liberals, and that conservatives are the enemies of feminism. I want to challenge that belief.
I am a conservative feminist, and that is not an oxymoron.
I have first hand experience of what it is like to not have freedom.
What were you doing ten years ago? Where were you living? Did you have kids yet? Where were you working? Think about how much you have grown over the
past ten years. Have you grown a
lot? Not so much? Maybe things are a little tougher for you now
than they were then?
Ten years ago on March 31, 2005 my ex-husband was arrested
for domestic abuse and false imprisonment. Technically, I think his arrest was just after midnight on April 1; but
you get the idea.
This summer my family and I made the decision to relocate. We left the beautiful weather of Sacramento and headed for the blistering Texas heat of San Antonio, where the salsa is so hot it knocks your boots off! I had been feeling more and more trapped living in Sacramento despite having a non-profit that I loved, loads of wonderful friends, the supportive in-laws, and many successes. The thing weighing me down--I could not escape the oppression of my ex-husband or the oppression of the family courts who were more and more the ones in control of my life, or so it seemed.
Hello Dear Readers!
I picked "Free Your Mind" by En Vogue because it is a song with a strong message about prejudices and racism...with a positive and empowering spirit instead of an angry spirit. I also love songs by strong women! MLK Jr would be proud of these women!
My favorite lines:
"Before you can read me you gotta learn how to see me" because it is important to try to see people for their actions and ideas instead of their outward appearance...and that is SO hard to do!