Jennifer M. Rodriguez - Family and Relationship Coach
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Why This Feminist Refused to March: Topic 1--Women's Rights
Easy Life, Abused Wife
Put down the homework for a while and do something fun!
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: It has made me more beautiful.

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Easy Life, Abused Wife

What were you doing ten years ago? Where were you living? Did you have kids yet? Where were you working? Think about how much you have grown over the past ten years. Have you grown a lot? Not so much? Maybe things are a little tougher for you now than they were then?
 
Ten years ago on March 31, 2005 my ex-husband was arrested for domestic abuse and false imprisonment. Technically, I think his arrest was just after midnight on April 1; but you get the idea.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: It has made me more beautiful.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (or PTSD) doesn't sound real pretty.  Trauma, stress, and disorder are highly negative words, and the disorder itself interferes with healthy relationships, how a person views the world and the people in it, and can even prevent them from holding down a job and functioning as a normal person in society. 

As a result of living through a domestic abuse situation, I now struggle with PTSD.  I have done some healing over the past nine years, and I know I have a lot more healing to do.

Solving social issues isn't black and white

In today’s American social culture there is a focus on right and wrong.  What direction does the moral compass point?  Where is the line between hate speech, freedom of speech, and censorship?  Our community leaders are tasked with creating laws and policy that allow for independent freedom without infringing on the rights of others, and lately that includes more and more social consideration than in previous generations.  

Many people have extreme beliefs of right and wrong.  While it is great to know exactly where you stand on certain issues, sometimes that stance can blind you to the issues on the other side of the argument.

Wonder

Hello Dear Readers!

Natalie Merchant is simply beautiful. Her appearance, her clothes, her voice—are understated and natural, and beautiful. I really enjoy her song “Wonder” because it helps me to imagine what it would truly be like to be famous and subjected to the opinions of so many others, including people who really have no idea who you are at the core. It also helps me to understand how strong a celebrity’s personal boundaries must be so that they can be tough enough to keep out unwanted influences.

Tiptoe Through The Tulips

Hello Dear Readers!

This one is for fun!  Tiny Tim, the eccentric ukulele player famous for marrying Miss Vicki on the Johnny Carson show, would not stand a chance at fame in today’s society because of his image—but he is HILARIOUS!  How he keeps a straight face during his performance is beyond me!  How many interesting entertainers never make it to the spotlight because of the “need” to be perfect.  I love Tiny Tim for just being himself!

An interesting fact: Miss Vicki is my mom’s second cousin!

Free Your Mind (in honor of MLK Day!)

Hello Dear Readers!

I picked "Free Your Mind" by En Vogue because it is a song with a strong message about prejudices and racism...with a positive and empowering spirit instead of an angry spirit.  I also love songs by strong women!  MLK Jr would be proud of these women!

My favorite lines:
"Before you can read me you gotta learn how to see me" because it is important to try to see people for their actions and ideas instead of their outward appearance...and that is SO hard to do!

Perfect

Hello Dear Readers!

This post makes up for the missing post on January 2!  Sarah Evans is one of my favorite singers and we frequently listen to her album "Restless" in the car.  I really like the song "Perfect" because it describes a real kind of love and not a fairy tale kind of love. 

We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect in our relationship roles, whether those are romantic, platonic, or family relationships; and that is just not a realistic expectation to have.